What's your stepmom persona?

Are you self-sacrificing? Evil? Mindful? Confused? Take this fun quiz and find out! I think we as stepmoms experience a little bit of all of these from time to time. Read about all the stepmom personas below and let me know what you think.

​The quiz is currently offline, however you can still read about the different personas in the blog.

What persona do you most resonate with?

The Self-Sacrificing Stepmom

You do everything for everyone else, and often forget about your own needs in the process. You try so hard to make it work, and that’s commendable, but you need to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking time for you and honoring your own values, needs and desires is important.

You are an important member of the family, not an afterthought on the sidelines. Take your rightful place gently and honor your own needs, because if you don’t do it chances are good that nobody else will. Use the mantra “I am important and what I want matters”, and treat yourself to something nice at least once a week, you deserve it!

Need a little self-care booster, try the short meditation on Self-care to help re-program your brain to your you first! You can pick up the full meditation album on iTunes or directly from me here.

The Dazed and Confused Stepmom

What’s my role? Is this normal? Am I normal? Should I? Shouldn’t I?
It’s common, especially at the beginning, for stepmoms not to have a clearly defined role. It’s also common for roles to evolve and change over time, making it a confusing space to navigate.

One way to lessen the confusion is to have a clear vision of what you eventually would like your blended family to be. You should also share this vision with your husband or significant other. But it’s also important for that vision NOT to be written in stone.

Create a vision of your family (vision board, write it out, or simply imagine it in your mind). Then let that vision go a little, and leave wiggle-room for some unexpected turns and surprises. Trust that whatever happens is exactly as it should be. Do what feels right in your own heart and mind, while respecting all the members of your family.

Ready to get started on your vision? The Visioning track of the Mindful Stepmom meditation album can help. You can pick up the album on iTunes or directly from me here.

All About the Drama Stepmama

You are assertive, stand up for what you want, and don’t let anyone push you over or get in your way. If something doesn’t go the way you want, you let it be heard and aren’t shy about speaking up. You pride yourself in being a strong woman, but sometimes are fed up with living in constant drama.

Honoring your own needs is important, and you’ve got that down! But honey, if you want to live in peace in a blended family, it’s give and take. Pick your battles wisely, and don’t let yourself get worked up over every little thing.

It’s hard to share your family with another woman, and if you hang onto every little thing that doesn’t go the way you wanted, you’ll probably spend most of your life upset. Next time something happens that goes against your ideals, ask yourself “How important is this?” If it’s not that important, practice letting it go. Meditation can help you learn the art of non-reaction in the moment, and help you make emotionally-intelligent decisions rather than letting your emotions get the best of you.

Try my free meditation on biomom drama, and feel at pace now. Available by clicking the free meditation link on my album's page here. You can also pick up the album on iTunes, or directly from me here.

The Evil Stepmother

This one doesn’t need much explanation.

Perhaps you hold a lot of anger and resentment towards your stepfamily. That’s a tough place to be, but there is a way out.

Tune in, clear your block and open your heart. Give a little, and learn to warm up to your new blended family (for your own sanity and that of others). Let love and light be your mantra.

Try the Mindful Meditation album to help you feel at peace again. There's a free meditation on "Making peace with the biomom" and "feeling taken for granted". You can pick it up on iTunes or here. 

The Mindful Stepmom

Congratulations, you’re on the journey of the mindful stepmom (and you may not have even known it!). Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment, letting go of the past, and releasing our tense hold on the future outcome. It means going with the flow, feeling aligned with the universe and your purpose. You encourage positive behaviours, try to lead by example, and do your best to be a light in your blended family.

The mindful journey can sometimes be a solitary one. Finding a tribe of like-minded mamas to support you in this journey can propel you further along your path. Don’t know any mindful stepmoms? I’ve created a secret community for Mindful Stepmoms just like you, and would love to have you join us. 

You will receive an invitation to join this secret Facebook group once you purchase the Mindful Stepmom album and forward me your receipt. Get the album on iTunes or directly from me here, then email annadeacosta@gmail.com to join the group.

What did you score? Did you resonate a little with each description? I know I did! Tell me about it in the comments below!