Beauty and the Beast
Growing up in a family where controlling one anothers' addictive behaviors was the norm, I dedicated the first part of my life to trying to fix those around me.
Thanks to those struggles throughout my life, I’ve finally figured out they key to controlling others! Are you ready to learn my secret? Here it is….
My answer to this question – it’s NOT a hierarchy! Nothing has to come first.
You don’t need to put an order or absolute value to things. That value and importance changes and fluctuates with time.
And if I must choose one thing that comes first… then my family comes first.
Last week I met up with Stepmom Warrior, Nicole DiLorenzo, to talk about meditation and how it's helped us as stepmoms. Check out the video and highlights below.
Some highlights from our talk:
- 2:50 The negative thoughts & chatter in your mind
- 3:25 Impromptu guest appearance by my 3 year old son
- 4:40 You're being controlled by thoughts you may not be aware of
- 5:43 Misconceptions about meditations, mantras, and sitting in stillness
- 7:15 I do it in the shower, while blow-drying my hair in the car on my way to work...
- 8:54 How you can find your power in EVERY situation
- 10:20 Common negative feelings and problems faced by stepmoms
- 11:19 How our energy can be contagious (in both good and bad ways)
Nicole is a Certified Stepfamily Coach and provides lifeline services for all members of a stepfamily.
Check out her website and learn more about her services at https://stepmomwarrior.com/stepmomwarrior.com/
If you have never tried meditation, or want to learn more about how it can help you as a stepmom, stay tuned!
In November, I'm running a FREE challenge to help you learn to apply mindfulness techniques to bring more peace and balance to your life as a stepmom.
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Have you tried meditation? How has it helped you as a stepmom? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
Learn to value what you value, and teach your kids to do the same.
Why do I get so stressed out from packing? Well the surface reason is that we’ve had so many ‘bad’ experiences with the nice things we buy getting ruined or lost, so now my first reaction is to go on the defensive, feeling angry that our stuff isn’t respected and cared for, feeling helpless like there’s nothing I can do to control what happens with the stuff when I’m not there, and feeling guilty for keeping their ‘nicer’ clothes and accessories at our place, and sending them off with the more used stuff.
The truth is that I feel like what I want and what’s important to me doesn’t matter.
I feel like my own values and the way I want to live and be in my family doesn’t matter. What I do doesn’t matter. And why do I feel this way? Because I put my time, energy and money into something that matters to me, but that 'something' that matters to me isn’t appreciated or respected by others.
Dealing with picky-eaters, different tastes, and comparisons to biomom's cooking
Being a stepmom is one of the most difficult parenting roles to take on in a blended family.
Despite the negative hype, it’s possible to make it work. Studies are beginning to shine a light on positive strategies to increase success as a stepmom in your blended family. Here is a summary of 11 research-based facts on stepmoms and some implications for what they mean for stepmoms trying to succeed against the odds in a blended family.